Being with someone for three years is a long time, you change a lot along the way and as they change, you learn that you like things you never thought you would like about someone.
I remember there was this point in our relationship when we were at the pub with friends, I felt like he wasn’t the misanthropic, cynical, lone-wolf man that I fell for. He was very social and optimistic, it took me a long time to realize that he probably came off that way because he had the woman he loved sitting beside him rather than a 28 hour drive away.
I look at where we are today, we keep the groups that we hang out with small and awesome. I look forward to our social gatherings and people asking about “us” as though we think and feel the same things and are now just one big mushy blob. We kept the best of both worlds in our social life, though we still prefer to be at home alone, playing battlefield 3 and re-watching 30 rock episodes, it’s nice to know that when we’re feeling like getting out that there are some wonderful people to visit.
I think a part of me was previously too reluctant to change the fact that she cut ties with her old friends for a reason and kind of just forgot to make new ones. Perhaps, though, it wasn’t that we changed at all and more that we added things to our lives. At least that’s the way that I like to look at it.
